How to Be The Best Version of Yourself

To be the best version of yourself requires effort. It demands you learn how to be yourself. In this episode sponsored by Better Help I share three ways on how to be the best version of yourself. So let’s go!

Put Yourself First

One way to become the best version of yourself is to put yourself first. This simple statement is plastered all over Pinterest and Instagram yet the practice of putting yourself first seems to elude many people. Learning to put yourself demands that you accept full responsibility for your life. The average person doesn’t want that kind of pressure.  Many of us (my former self-included) choose instead to take on the responsibility of improving everyone else’s lives. We do this because it’s far easier to tell someone how to improve their lives than it is to actually do the work of improving our own lives. In addition, many people (again my former self-included) derive our significance from serving other people. So our spouses, children, family, community affiliations all get priority placement in our lives.

The problem with prioritizing everyone and everything over yourself are that putting yourself first is a non-transferrable practice. Meaning there’s no amount of prioritizing others that will equate to you putting you first. I struggled for years with putting myself first and accepting full responsibility for my life.  But once I finally did life got really really good, even the bad days weren’t as bad. To learn how to be the best version of yourself you must put yourself first. 

Do What Makes You Happy

Another way to be the best version of yourself is to do what makes you happy. The biggest obstacle for most people is that they don’t know what makes them happy. Many people look at other peoples lives via social media and think if I only had that then I’d be happy. But when they get the Instagram-able moment and it doesn’t produce the effect they were expecting, they experience an incredible letdown. This let down aka an expectation hangover is the result of not knowing what truly makes you happy. Many people don’t know what makes them happy because they weren’t allowed much happiness as a child. Some people don’t know what makes them happy because they stop at satisfaction rather than reaching for happiness. A few people don’t know what makes them happy because they believe the pursuit of happiness in and of itself is selfish and therefore not a worthy life pursuit.

Yet, the human condition shows us that our deepest desire in life is figuring out how to be happy. To spend the gift of life in alignment with the people, places, and things that bring us fulfillment is our ultimate aim and there is no easier way to achieve our aim than by making a commitment to do what makes you happy. Your happiness is worth it to the world because your happiness inspires others to pursue their happiness. A planet full of human beings, being happy is a good life! Learning how to be the best version of yourself happens when you do what makes you happy.

**a caveat worth mentioning** To do what makes you happy by my definition means that your intentions are good and your actions do not harm.

Tell Yourself The Truth

The third way to be the best version of yourself is to tell yourself the truth. Telling the truth starts first by telling yourself the truth about you. Next telling yourself the truth about other people. Finally, telling the truth to others about yourself. As simple as it sounds telling yourself the truth is not always easy.

It’s not always easy because once the truth is expressed, clarity of next right action follows. Right action aka new action is uncomfortable, unfamiliar, and inconvenient. We like our routines, rituals, and patterns and nothing interrupts what we’ve been doing with what we should be doing to improve our lives than the truth. So we avoid the truth about ourselves, our relationships, our careers, our families, our finances, our faith, and our hopes and dreams. But learning how to be the best version of yourself starts with telling yourself the truth. 


This episode is sponsored by Better Help an online counseling resource that connects you with licensed therapist to help you manage life's up and downs!

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